I had a small realisation today. Back in April, my gynaecologist asked me to run a few routine exams. Nothing urgent. Just one of those things we know we should keep up with. And only now, six months later, I finally did them.
It made me pause. Because I know that if my daughter’s paediatrician had asked for an exam, I would have booked it the very next day. I would never wait half a year. I wouldn’t even think twice.
So why do we do this to ourselves? Why is it so easy to slip to the bottom of our own list?
On my way home, I kept circling back to this thought. Caring for my health is part of caring for my family. We talk so much about self-care that the word can start to feel empty, but maybe this is its most honest form.
Not the candlelit version.
The grown-up one.
The one where we take responsibility for our wellbeing.
Where we listen to our bodies and don’t ignore them.
I’ve spent the last six years consciously looking inward, tending to my growth and the way I mother. I’ve studied, shared conversations with friends and clients, and witnessed so much in the circles and retreats I hold. I speak about rest, taking care of ourselves. I know these things. And still, I sometimes find myself doing the exact opposite. I remind myself of this daily, because I’m human too, and this is ongoing work.
Quietly pushing my needs aside.
Thinking I’ll get to it later.
Letting myself slip without even noticing.
It’s humbling. And very human.
Maybe tending to ourselves is a lifelong practice, not something we learn once and never forget.
So I want to leave you with a gentle question: How are you caring for your health right now? Not just resting or moving your body, but the deeper layer. Are you eating real food? Are your check-ups up to date? Are you taking your vitamins? Do you care for your health the way you care for your children’s?
There’s no judgement here. Just a soft nudge from one mother to another.
You matter too. And your wellbeing supports the wellbeing of your family.
Maybe today is the day you make that call. Book that exam. Refill that supplement. Listen to what your body has been whispering.
I’m right here with you 🤍